The feeling of being the most lucky woman!

Married life !

Getting Together finally!

Painful Waiting!

After Getting married, my life was not as romantic as it should be in some sense. My husband had his Job in the U.S, and I had my studies here to continue. Therefore, it was impossible for us to stay together.

After marriage when he left, we had known each other only for 4 days. Our friendship was only 4 days old. That left me with not much emotions, only the realization that I am married now and I have a husband who lives very far from me. Since I was in the middle of my exams at the time of marriage, and I still had few papers left, I was praying to have some alone time. After my husband left, 5 days later I had to write two more papers. When I was coming home after the last exam, I suddenly had the realization that I am married now. I felt as if I was in some other world all this time, my mind was preoccupied with something else and I could not even realize that my whole world has changed now.

Anyway, even though my husband was far away from me, we talked to each other every day, no matter what the situation was. This routine continued for 3 complete years. I planned my routine according to his timings. Since the time gap between my place and the U.S was a lot, I had to be very calculative about the time, so that I will not miss my classes and he will not miss his work.

We got to know more each other on phone with every passing day. We would share every thing we had to during our conversation. We would laugh, cry, and feel happy do planning on the phone. We had the fixed time to call and nothing can come on the way. 10 minutes before he would call me I would be all prepared, as if I am going for some important job interview or on some important decision to make. Every one at my home knew that this is my time and no one would dare to disturb me at that moment. No one could engage the phone at that time. People knew the timing so they would set up their timing of use of phone when I was done talking to my husband.

Like this 8 months passed by. I never had the courage to ask him to come and meet me once. At that time, the Job market in the U.S was very scary, because of sudden downfall in software market. People were being fired everywhere. So I was very scared to even ask him when will come to see me again. Every day I would think and set appropriate words to ask him to come forever 3-4 days, but I could never do that. However, up there was someone feeling my pain and emotions. My husband won a round trip lottery ticket for two people. He told me about it and I was so elated. I knew that now he would definitely come to see me, but still I did not have the courage to ask him that when will he exactly come. Then one morning he called me and told me the date. My joy knew no bounds. I started counting days. I was like a free bird full of joys, like a peacock dancing with joy in the first shower of the rain.

Finally he came. I did not have words to talk to him when I first saw him .I felt as if he is a complete stranger to me. Even though I knew that, this is the person whom I was dying to see. It took us few minutes to open up. We were more used to each other on phone than, like this face-to-face. Butterflies were flying in my stomach, uncontrollable.

He stayed for 7 days, going back and forth to my house and his parents house which is in the same city. Finally, the day came when he had to leave again. My heart was sinking, thinking about the day he will leave. Because I did not know how long I will have to wait to get his single glimpses again. I did not ask him as when he will come again. He left and our old routine of talking on phone started with any interruption.

Getting married!

I was 25 years old when I got married. I was the youngest among three very loving and caring brothers. My whole life I considered that I had 3 guardians. Two of them were obviously my parents and the third one was my eldest brother. The age difference between us was so much so that he was always very protective and caring towards me. Only after I got married that I found out that I have suddenly become an adult.

I got married to a very loving and caring man. In the beginning, I never thought that I would ever get married .Not because I thought I had some flaw or no one will find good enough to marry me. It was just that I was daddy’s little daughter and brothers little sister, and I always wanted to be that way. I was not willing to become some one’s wife at all.

After a while when my parents started looking for a decent person for me, they would do that very secretively. The reason being I would get very angry and upset and do some thing to interrupt the progress in building the relationship.

Nevertheless, eventually I was fated to get married .Our marriage was fixed 2 years before we actually got married. Before that, we have not even seen each other. Even though I had seen his pictures but no one told me that, this is the picture of the person, I am going to get married to. During that time, he lived in the United States.

Finally, I got married after waiting for two years. At that time I was in my 3^rd semester of BCA (bachelors in computer application).When the marriage date was fixed, I was praying that it should not fall on the dates when I will have my exams. However, my fear became true. Three days just before my marriage I was busy in writing my exam. The night before my marriage, I had my third paper and the next paper was on the day of my marriage, which I had to drop. I was not preparing myself or indulging myself at all for any kind of preparation what so ever any kind of make up. I had not told any of my friends about my marriage at all. After writing my second paper when I was coming from my exam center I saw my house all decorated. Neighbors were staring at me as I did not look at all like a “would be bride” tomorrow. I was all messed up with tension of my exams and my future.

The man I was married to is the best person I can think of on the face of this earth. I could not think someone better than him. He understood me from inside and out, cared for my emotions a lot and I always felt that he is with me. After getting married, we stated together for 4 days .On the fifth day of our marriage he had to leave for the U.S.I was not going with him. I had my last exam after 9 days. I knew him enough to me sad that he has to leave now and that was the first time I felt some emotions for him. I did not feel good inside, but then at that time my whole focus was only and only on my exam. I was just praying god that, all the guest would go to their places along with my husband, so that can have some free time to revise my studies. I was not able to concentrate on any thing at all. Finally the day cam when my husband had to leave. I went to the airport to say him goodbye. While coming home I felt very lonely but I did not understand why. I was so ignorant that I did not understand the relationship of husband and wife and the depth of that relationship. I thought that he has gone for good and so I did not even ask him when will he come again. After reaching to the U.S, he called me and I was in disbelief that why did he call me. I never even asked him to call me. Because I had no idea, that it could be done or that is necessary. I thought that he is going now and that is it, now we have our separate paths.

I some times think that I being so ignorant what would have happened to our relationship if my husband were not this understanding. It was as if he knew from the very first day that I am so naive that he has to manage every thing. In the beginning, he did not expect from me any thing as if he knew that, I was like that, but I am not like that on purpose. He understood the fact that I have no knowledge of this relationship at all. Since that first day, He kept calling without even a single day of miss for three complete years. All this time we lived away from each other. That was a very long time. However, all his support and his phone calls kept us so intact and made us so close to each other, that we got to know more and became attached to each other more than the previous day.

Life felt like a piece of heaven to me thinking of my husband. How great he was and how caring he was for me.

Update:-I am going to fill in the other posts very soon.