Getting married!

I was 25 years old when I got married. I was the youngest among three very loving and caring brothers. My whole life I considered that I had 3 guardians. Two of them were obviously my parents and the third one was my eldest brother. The age difference between us was so much so that he was always very protective and caring towards me. Only after I got married that I found out that I have suddenly become an adult.

I got married to a very loving and caring man. In the beginning, I never thought that I would ever get married .Not because I thought I had some flaw or no one will find good enough to marry me. It was just that I was daddy’s little daughter and brothers little sister, and I always wanted to be that way. I was not willing to become some one’s wife at all.

After a while when my parents started looking for a decent person for me, they would do that very secretively. The reason being I would get very angry and upset and do some thing to interrupt the progress in building the relationship.

Nevertheless, eventually I was fated to get married .Our marriage was fixed 2 years before we actually got married. Before that, we have not even seen each other. Even though I had seen his pictures but no one told me that, this is the picture of the person, I am going to get married to. During that time, he lived in the United States.

Finally, I got married after waiting for two years. At that time I was in my 3^rd semester of BCA (bachelors in computer application).When the marriage date was fixed, I was praying that it should not fall on the dates when I will have my exams. However, my fear became true. Three days just before my marriage I was busy in writing my exam. The night before my marriage, I had my third paper and the next paper was on the day of my marriage, which I had to drop. I was not preparing myself or indulging myself at all for any kind of preparation what so ever any kind of make up. I had not told any of my friends about my marriage at all. After writing my second paper when I was coming from my exam center I saw my house all decorated. Neighbors were staring at me as I did not look at all like a “would be bride” tomorrow. I was all messed up with tension of my exams and my future.

The man I was married to is the best person I can think of on the face of this earth. I could not think someone better than him. He understood me from inside and out, cared for my emotions a lot and I always felt that he is with me. After getting married, we stated together for 4 days .On the fifth day of our marriage he had to leave for the U.S.I was not going with him. I had my last exam after 9 days. I knew him enough to me sad that he has to leave now and that was the first time I felt some emotions for him. I did not feel good inside, but then at that time my whole focus was only and only on my exam. I was just praying god that, all the guest would go to their places along with my husband, so that can have some free time to revise my studies. I was not able to concentrate on any thing at all. Finally the day cam when my husband had to leave. I went to the airport to say him goodbye. While coming home I felt very lonely but I did not understand why. I was so ignorant that I did not understand the relationship of husband and wife and the depth of that relationship. I thought that he has gone for good and so I did not even ask him when will he come again. After reaching to the U.S, he called me and I was in disbelief that why did he call me. I never even asked him to call me. Because I had no idea, that it could be done or that is necessary. I thought that he is going now and that is it, now we have our separate paths.

I some times think that I being so ignorant what would have happened to our relationship if my husband were not this understanding. It was as if he knew from the very first day that I am so naive that he has to manage every thing. In the beginning, he did not expect from me any thing as if he knew that, I was like that, but I am not like that on purpose. He understood the fact that I have no knowledge of this relationship at all. Since that first day, He kept calling without even a single day of miss for three complete years. All this time we lived away from each other. That was a very long time. However, all his support and his phone calls kept us so intact and made us so close to each other, that we got to know more and became attached to each other more than the previous day.

Life felt like a piece of heaven to me thinking of my husband. How great he was and how caring he was for me.

Update:-I am going to fill in the other posts very soon.